PW Design and Co

The first trimester of pregnancy can be an exciting and joyful time for many women. However, it can also be a period of loneliness and isolation. This is especially true for women who may not have a strong support system or who are experiencing their first pregnancy.

One of the main reasons why the first trimester can be lonely is because society tells women to keep their pregnancy a secret during this time. This is often due to the risk of miscarriage, which is highest during the first trimester. As a result, women may feel like they are carrying a secret burden and may not have anyone to share their excitement or concerns with. My first pregnancy I waited the expected 12 weeks to let people know. But not with my second. Reason being I think it’s stupid that women have to assume the worst and not burden anyone else with their grief should the worst happen… I think women should get more support during this time, especially if god forbid something does happen. 

In addition, the physical symptoms of the first trimester can also contribute to feelings of loneliness. Morning sickness, fatigue, and hormonal changes can make it difficult for women to engage in their usual social activities. They may feel too sick or tired to go out with friends or participate in activities that they once enjoyed. And if you are anything like me it’s all day everyday sickness where I get about a 10 minute break every two hours, otherwise I constantly feel like I am going to throw up, and sometimes I do. The mental load of feeling unwell for extended periods of time is also taxing. I have been unable to stomach my usual coffee order, I love sweets and I have been unable to stomach any and I am the errand runner in the house, but I just can’t bring myself to get off the bed or couch for fear of getting sick in public. 

Furthermore, the first trimester can be a time of uncertainty and anxiety. Women may worry about the health of their baby and may have many questions and concerns. Anybody else have a freak out at every ultrasound? Without a support system or someone to talk to, these worries can become overwhelming and contribute to feelings of loneliness.

The more vocal we are about the struggles of pregnancy the more advocacy and support we can provide to other mothers. My first pregnancy I suffered in silence, but I won’t make that mistake again. 

So, if this is you and you are feeling lonely, know that you are not alone. Reach out to others and try support groups to keep you sane!